Love; one of the most popular searches Google makes every day, is an emotion of passion, fondness, and sincere devotion to someone we really fancy. Love has been defined in various contexts. From a passionate commitment, to a driver of great stories; yet one thing all definitions have in common is that someone who is in love with an intimate companion is enclosed in a state of mind where their heart and mind lusts for the other person, accepting them as they are, and feeling satisfied in their presence. We all, at some time in our lives, undergo a feeling of infatuation which is commonly mistaken for love. So, in order to avoid such a glitch with a special someone, here are 10 ways which will help you figure it out:
1.Can you go by a few hours without thinking of the person?
You don’t have to be obsessed about the person, but if the person crosses you’re mind every once in a while when they aren’t there, or if certain circumstances like a book or a movie, trigger thoughts of the person, you may just be in love with them. Their absence may make you feel empty and you may find yourself searching for excuses to hear their voice or just talk to them. However, if the person doesn’t cross your mind often and you could probably go on a week or month without thinking about him/her, you are not likely to be in love.
2.Does the opinion of the person matter to you?
If youre in love, then the other person and their voice of thought, and perspective should carry some importance to you. Their thoughts and what they have to say are something which should leave an influence on you. You should be willing to listen to them with concern and understanding. If you give them the cold shoulder at such times, or overlook their opinion, then you are definitely not in a state of love. Taking into account the person’s ideas when making a big decision, or if you value someone’s opinion in time of a social crisis, makes you serious enough to be in love with him/her.
3.Do you feel like you can be yourself with the person?
When you are with the person, you should be happy and comfortable just the way that you are. The person should also appreciate you as you are, and bring out the best in you. If you have to pretend or act in a certain way that doesn’t make you happy, then you are not really in love because the person may not be prepared to accept you as who you truly are. You should never have to worry about sounding stupid and just be confident in your own ways and maintain your individuality. Being with the person should make you feel like you are in the best possible version of yourself.
4.Are you aware of the person’s flaws and prepared to accept them?
With no doubt, nobody is perfect and envisioning the perfect and flawless life partner is quite impractical. If you are aware of the imperfections of the person and are okay with them then you are in love. Love is not seeing someone as perfect, but rather being able to confess their flaws and even laugh about them openly. If you see no flaws, then you may not know the person as well you may have thought you did.
5.Are you willing to compromise for the person?
If you are really in love, then you should be willing to adjust and adapt to ways that may make the other person happy. Being stubborn and having it your way at all times may mean that the person loves you but you don’t necessarily love them in return. You should give in to the other person’s demands at times, knowing that it will make them happy and in turn, make you happy. Both partners in a relationship should give in and compromise at times for the betterment of decisions and their relationship. Satisfying your partner and putting their views ahead may mean that you’re in love.
6.Are you comfortable with sharing your feelings?
The person you love should be someone with whom you are able to share anything and everything with. You should be able to open up and let the other person see through to the real you. If all you say is to make the person like you, then it is not love. You should be able to comfortably express your grievances or past mistakes and not be afraid of mentioning them. Love is when someone knows you inside and out, and accepts your less-flattering side willingly.
7.Have you made it through tough times?
Life is not a walk in the park. Every relationship faces rough patches. What’s important is facing through them together. A relationship should be strong enough to work things out no matter how bad circumstances get. If no such opportunity arose, you may not have enough information to evaluate if it’s really love or not. Getting through a disappointing or hurtful phase and overcoming it is a sign of true love.
8.Can you picture a future without the person?
How significant someone is in your life can be analyzed by a simple vision of how you perceive your future to be. Is that person going to be in it? Can you imagine life without the person? Whatever you may be doing in the future, be it having children or reaching you life’s goal; you should want to do them with that person by your side. Being in love would mean that you wouldn’t want to start a new chapter in your life without that person. You would want them to be through with you wherever you end up and to grow old with you. That is true love.
9.Do you take pleasure in helping the person?
Love is about give and take. But if you take pleasure in giving just as much as taking, then you are in love. True love is beyond conditions. It’s about sincerely caring for the other person and helping them in whatever way that you can with a devoted heart. Things like driving the person around or doing their laundry at times should be done without complications and arguments. You shouldn’t be taken advantage of, of course the person should help you when you need it in return. These things however should be a done with a good heart.
10. Do you enjoy doing little things with the person?
All the time spent with such a special person does not have to be grand and illustrious, but rather, love is felt even in ordinary meetings such as while watching a movie or spending time at a local café. All these moments can be made precious and fun if your spending time with the right person, the one whom you really love. They should be able to bring the best out of such mediocre meetings by making them exciting and memorable. True love is getting a kick out of simple time spent just as much as extravagant dates.
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